hi Mandazzle.. yes.. does sound like a kindergarten pre-school situation doesn't it? .. wow...

ive heard that when a child grows and has their own kids, that then the tables turn and the child/parent recieves an equal measure of their own parental challenges as it relates to thier growing up and parental issues...

well.. that DUI.... it really is at the center of all this.... no matter which way i try to view it... that was the turning point in my life.... and she had a choice and clearly made the wrong one....

now, years later, we're still stuck... ive done my best to be there and help her.... ive given after there was nothing left to give and then i gave more....

thats what a parent is supposed to do.... am i the parent now?

i cant keep this up... that doesnt mean my love ends... it means that i wont be part of the co-dependent relationship she's trying to build...

i didnt get her the booze... she didnt go get it herself... maybe she gets the message... i dont know...

i do know she has an icy cold attitude to me right now, and try as i might, cant find any cause....

its really sad to walk away... its really sad this is how it is and the way it has to be....