Quote:
Originally Posted by BethRags
I read your "novel" - it's not wasted words, Christina. It's a valid gathering of information that helps us know what's-what.
It is entirely true: your situation is not easy - and others can suggest or advise, but you are the one to decide.
Your husband has a serious illness - but so do you, several illnesses.
I'll be 100% blunt. From what you've described, these trips are way, way too hard on you. If there are benefits to the sacrifice - great. If not, different arrangements need to be made, in my opinion. It's damned tough, and painful as all get out, when adult children don't step up to the plate. Too often - sadly often - they don't. So, focus on the ones who do and hope the others eventually come around.
If I were in your shoes there is no way I could make a trip like the one you're facing. The risks from the stress (enormous stress!) would be far more than I could cope with. Everyone and I would end up being very sorry that I pushed myself beyond my limits.
At the risk of repeating myself...there has to be another way to plan things. Really. Seriously.
|
Thanks for reading my novel
I try to keep Bipolar as small apart of my marriage /life as possible.
I can’t expect my husband to just let me decide on everything about these trips , a compromise is needed.
I do think that having a 2 week max is a fair compromise. I will know on X day we will be coming home and that will be a good coping skill for me , and end date.
As for the kids , sigh. Now that there is a grandchild he’s always determined to make these trips even more.
I do plan to have this discussion with him soon, just waiting for the right time. He might initially be upset, but I think he will understand given a bit of time to look at it from my side.