I'd say the final decision is up to you. I am TRULY, DEEPLY SORRY that you're going through ALL OF THIS and that you're struggling and hurting SO MUCH, I TRULY AM! Yes, definitely contact your lawyer and see what you can do as the wise and wonderful sarahsweets has already wisely and wonderfully said BETTER THAN I EVER COULD! I'd say it's your choice whether or not you want to wait for him and see if he's able to sort things out or if you want to just file a divorce. In either case, please think about what will make YOU happy as well - and of course think of the children as well! I'd say that children can ba affected A LOT by an unhappy marriage. They can feel it. So please, make your decisions carefully. You may also want to consider couple counselling if you feel like that would improve things for BOTH you and your Husband. Give it a thought! Perhaps even individual therapy for yourself wouldn't be a bad idea either! Anything that will help you get through ALL of this and that will help you to Live a Better Life! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME when you need advice and support or even simply someone to talk to or vent to! I am SURE plenty of others will also ALTRUISTICALLY, BEAUTIFULLY, MARVELLOUSLY, GENEROUSLY GLADLY, KINDLY, WISELY and WONDERFULLY help you out as well! Sending Many Safe, Warm Hugs To BOTH You, @Strength01, Your Family, Your Friends, Your Husband, Your Children, ALL of the people You Love Who ALSO Love You And Accept You For WHO YOU TRULY ARE And ALL Of Your Loved Ones! I am TRULY, DEEPLY SORRY that you're hurting and struggling SO BADLY and that you're going through ALL OF THIS, I TRULY AM! PLEASE DO KEEP FIGHTING AND PLEASE DO KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY BEAUTIFULLY, MARVELLOUSLYWISELY AND WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF AND ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING! PLEASE DO KEEP FIGHTING AND PLEASE DO KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY BEAUTIFULLY, MARVELLOUSLY, WISELY AND WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF AND ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING, MY AWESOME, BEAUTIFUL, WARM, WISE, KIND, SWEET, THOUGHTFUL, INTELLIGENT, SMART, RESOURCEFUL, EXPANSIVE, FRIENDLY, CARING, DEAR, AWESOME AND WONDERFUL FRIEND!