I think it is wise to see an attorney; if you decide it is necessary to get a divorce, you will have the information you need beforehand. As for him "sorting" himself out;...there is no way to know how long that could take. Don't allow him to make a life decision about your life..... I don't know (if it were me) how long I would give him, but not long. He has already made a decision that affects your life deeply; sounds as if he wants his "cake" and to eat it also?