I think a certain level of stability is beneficial to a healthy relationship, but what does "better" mean to you? Do you feel you might be ready? I am glad you realize you deserve a healthy relationship. I think I am in a pretty healthy relationship despite my mental health problems. My SO treats me well and I do my best to hold myself accountable for my own stuff instead of taking it out on him. I think I have sometimes failed at that, but he seems to think I treat him well. He also never makes me feel bad for being unwell. I can understand being worried about being triggered again after a bad relationship. I have not been in any really bad relationships before, but maybe others here can comment on that and what it's like to get back into dating. I am sorry for those past experiences.