aloha all! things have come to a head recently between my husband and myself. we had an argument over the phone, and i hung up on him and didn't answer his calls (he always prefers me calling instead of him for practicality's sake, and when he does the calling, it usually means more trouble). so the next morning, i got a call from his mom saying he's in the hospital because of too much alcohol and depression. now i feel so guilty about that because he keeps saying i brought that on him. my behavior has caused all of that; and that i should have just made things easier for him and not "talked back" and i should have just agreed with everything he wanted since he's the one doing EVERYTHING for us.

now i feel guilty because i am starting to think that i was the one who caused all the trouble in the first place. he keeps reminding me that he's gone through so much ever since he met me. when i tell him i have gone through everything with him, he says i'm comparing things again and whatever i have gone through (if any at all) is nothing compared to what he's done and given up for me.

now i feel that i cannot leave him because if i do, he might do something to himself and i don't want to carry that on my conscience.