Muffy, you're a caring and trusting soul. You should be proud of yourself for that. Your sister is an alocholic, but just being sober does not mean that she is by any stretch emotionally healthy or honest. I'm an alocoholic myself, and no the difference between being not drunk and really sober and I can be manipulative with the best of them if I want to.

Have you ever thought of going to an Alanon meeting? They're for friends and family's of alcoholics. I was at a joing AA Alanon conference and heard a husband and wife speak about their respective experiences in AA and alanon. I have a lot of respect for alanon and know it helps thousands of people. It might help you learn to set some boundaries with your sister so that you're not taken advantage of.

Take care of yourself.

---splitimage