I spent years with an abuser, I would possibly say he is the only man I have ever loved and i miss him to this day.
I realize what was done was wrong, but he was so broken that I understand. Our sex life was intense and was one of the main reasons i couldn't let go. He was extremely dominant and i, his sub. Since I haven't seen him in many years, I have never experienced anything like it and my sexuality has waned.

In recent months, I have met a male who is older than I am and we became friends. After confiding in each other we discovered that we both have matching sexual interests. Him dom, I sub. We engage in this type of talk from morning until night. I have never in my life been so aroused.
We have made our first plans to enjoy each other this weekend.

My question is, because this fetish stems from abuse, do you think it could be harmful to my healing? Or because it is strictly kept in the bedroom, be liberating?

Rules have been established within our relationship, purely sexual from my request, safe words and limits etc.

Thoughts?