Hello Blueberrypi: I see this is your first post here on PC. So...welcome to Psych Central.

I'm not a mental health professional. So I don't really know all that much about this sort of thing. But I have to say what you describe in your post doesn't sound like OCD to me. It sounds more like a longstanding case of (perhaps) depression & both generalized as well as social anxiety. However presumably there is more to this than what you were able to relate in your post. That's simply the impression I was left with reading your post.

One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the Partners of People & Caregivers forum. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/partn...ivers-support/

And then here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of help:

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) | Psych Central

Helping or Enabling? A Fine Line When Dealing with OCD

Understanding Recovery Avoidance in OCD

OCD and Fear of Treatment

https://psychcentral.com/lib/erp-the...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...essional-help/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-way...-denial/?all=1

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.