Hi Lostin—
I was thinking about what Yagr wrote and realized that you could also spend some time with the wrong person yourself. I am astonished at how isolated and alienated and miserable I felt when I was still married and living with my wife. I didn’t really realize then that my wife was happy only when she controlled everything. I was surrounded by a busy social life but I felt so lonely. Now I spend a lot of time alone and it’s okay— I don’t feel threatened or fearful or under attack. I don’t particularly like or dislike being alone—I just feel relieved. I find listening to the radio and podcasts pleasant, I take a really long time coming home from work some days, and bicycling is an excellent solo pastime. I see friends on the weekends, and it’s been good reconnecting. I’m really not in a hurry to start dating or do anything adrenaline-fuelled these days, but work on appreciating what I have going on now. That said, I’m older than you are, so sitting on a park bench watching the sun go down is fine for me but probably boring as heck for you!