deepthought - i disagree with the above posters. your number 1 priority should ultimately be yourself. if you put others above your own mental health, thats not a very healthy state to have your wife, son, mother or yourself in. you need to put yourself first in your own life because if youre not healthy, nobody else is either. and if youre not happy, nobody else is either. stop putting others' happiness before yours. trying to make everyone happy just ends up not being good for anyone.