Thanks Christina!
I have so much going on, I cannot tell what is causing what.
Rough day with mother. She fell and has injured herself. She was very upset for a few hours.
Then had to deal with H, which was very trying. Same old troubled pattern at work. So very destructive. So simple to omit certain behaviors to begin with.. Tried to help him to realize this.

I honestly don't think he cares to know. He is locked into a passive- aggressive pattern, where he has been stuck for many, many years now. He has never wanted to listen or to give it up.
Pdoc is gone for 2 more weeks.