i am just wondering why is it so difficult to be assertive assertive with some people and not so difficult with others. i mean, i can easily be assertive with some coworkers, for example, or some family memebers, but not others. with some others, i feel scared, i mean i literally feel scared to answer them assertively....it is where i really want to speak up but cannot, i feel scared, my heart races, and then i feel mad when i do not speak up.

i do not think i was always like this either. as a teenager, twenty years ago i was known to speak up in the family and at school. now, since, i don't know, the last ten years or so, i have been quiet and very unassertive. how can i get back to being assertive?

maybe my zoloft is not working as much. i have been on it since 1998

cheers felina