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Originally Posted by shakespeare47
She mocks me for being face-blind.
She mocks my interest in philosophy..
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Do you say something when she does this?
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Originally Posted by shakespeare47
She deliberately slows down a conversation and refuses to answer questions and says something like, "I'm sorry, I have slow processing." Considering all I know about her, this smacks of insincerity and pettiness.
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This does sound like she isn't fully participating in the conversation.
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Originally Posted by shakespeare47
She refuses to take me seriously when I tell her how much I detest being around her family - because of the way they treat me. And refuses to help me find a solution. I suggested driving separately, and she made an issue of it, told her family what I was doing, and keeps trying to get me to ride together- even though she told me she did agree that it was a good solution.
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Though it would be wrong to never go--it is OK to sometimes say, "I would rather not go this time." She can't force you to do anything--you will never feel good about yourself if you don't stand up for yourself.
There are things my spouse does that upsets me and things I do that upset him. It is not worth it to make an issue out of everything (we have to learn to accept each other) but when something really bothers us--that's when we have to do something about it. We have to ask? Are they treating us badly (sometimes I can read more into a situation than is really going on--everyone has bad days where they get impatient). If they aren't respecting us--we need to find situations where we take a stand. Not everything but if we stand up enough to show that they must respect us--we will feel better about ourselves.