(((((((((((((( muffy )))))))))))))))))

I know the guilt so well....it is hard to get rid of. But there is a way to do it hon.

We do not have to step in and hand out money to solve other's problems. I think one of the best things we can do is help the person to think about other avenues to find the supports they need instead of reaching out to the ones who jump straight into their problems to fix them.

We can ask them what do they think they can do to help themselves? Like in your sisters situation....Are there some food banks she could go to for some food? How about some local churches that normally help folks out? How about going to the city/town welfare department? Maybe speaking to her case manager (if she has one) for assitance?

By giving her some things to think about and decide what to do, it gives the issue back to her to solve and takes it out of your lap. You have assisted her by helping her verbally and supportively....saying things such as, "wow, I know how difficult it is for you...I sure hope you can find some help in the ideas I've helped you to think of." and leave it at that. You DON'T have to offer monetary help.....

I'm sorry you felt bad enough that you are in pain and lost sleep over this. (((((((( muffy ))))))))))

Just some thoughts....I could be all wet here...LOL



sabby