Hello,

I joined this site in the hope that it would be able to provide me with some better quality advice compared to some other sites out there.

My question is about a guy.
A little context first though, we went on two dates three years ago before we both had to move countries for our careers. Since moving away I let the contact die down so that I could let my feelings fade for him as I got the impression he didn’t want it to continue.
Two months later he inititlated contact and every month since then he’s increased the contact. At one point he would message me all day every day and because I felt a strong attraction to him I wanted to find out what it was all about. In the end it seemed like he was either lonely or just wanted the flirtation to make him feel better rather than initiate something again.
Since it didn’t seem like it would become romantic (bad timing for me and maybe that’s not what he wanted) I’ve tried to politely be honest with him and reduce the contact, but he still contacts me every 1-3 weeks on a regular basis, but I’ve just found out he has a woman he’s seeing where he lives now (but he hasn’t told me this himself - he never mentions other women).

There’s much more to this but it’s difficult to get it all across here, but my main question is why is he still contacting me if he’s seeing someone else now? And how do I best handle it?

I know that was long so I appreciate you taking the time to read it.