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Old Sep 21, 2019, 01:10 PM
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Originally Posted by De Luca View Post
That's a good example, maybe it will help my wife understand. I hate how startled and angry I get from certain noises. It also seems to be worse right now from me actually having to process what gave me PTSD for the first time instead of hiding from it. Right now, music has been my best coping mechanism, it does heko me calm down but sometimes it could take a long time.
I can see how being in the midst of processing the cause(s) of your PTSD might make things worse right now..

It can be very frustrating and demoralizing to not be in control of our responses to the stimuli.

Yes, in addition to feeling like I am going to collapse, I also get agitated, which is somewhat demoralizing because I am not normally an agitated/angry person. Yet, when I get triggered by noise, I just cannot help myself and find I have to isolate. It can get lonely when so misunderstood, so often, and having to isolate in order to "survive" the insult(s) to our nervous systems.

I hope you can find a way to help your wife to understand. I also hope she is open to understanding. Don't give up!
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