Please feel free to write back personally.

I am really caught up with my boyfriends struggles. He says he wants to marry me, this didn't come up until recently- we've been together for a few years now.

He says his dad has health problems (Figi) and he needs to go back to visit him, but he needs a visa first. I do feel like he has feelings for me, but I know that his need for citizenship is the most important part for me.

I do feel used and feel like life should be better than this. He does have rage and it is hard when he gets out of control. Yet, I love him. This is such a complicated relationship!