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sarahsweets · Sep 22, 2019, 04:12 AM

Hey @cashlak

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Originally Posted by cashlak

N had begun to put me down alot and make fun of my weight as well.

I do not understand why you would have tolerated this even for a minute because its not funny, its mean.

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She had felt lonely, suicidal, bored, frustrated or in need of emotional support and I would Uber and Lyft to her house with little money I had just to give her company. Heck, when she didn't have a car at the time, I'd pay for the rides for us to hang out almost all the time.

Considering how mean she was it seems like you may have a little codependency going on. I am not trying to criticize you it just seems like it to me.

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N's personality had drastically changed and she started getting tired of hearing me vent to her and not take her advice or change. Things were going bad in my home at the time and she had offered me to live at her place in the meantime and at first I was pretty happy about it. Excited, even.

I sure hope you didnt move in with her.

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I would sympathize with her and I've been there for her through thick and thin even when I didn't have the time and I would even goes as far as to abandon being with my family and go out for hours on end or stay at her home until it was 4 in the morning.

I even recently helped her (with extra help of a friend of ours) file a human resources complaint about her job. This was one of her first jobs that paid well and when she would get big checks, she would flaunt it at me or everyone else on how she has like a thousand dollars in her savings and her checkings.
Which made me feel bad because wow here I was struggling with my anxiety and familial/personal problems and this chick is having the time of her life.

That is not how a friend in need acts.

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Until one day (very recently) I started to be passive aggressive, too. Because I was tired of being treated bad and letting it go because oh she's a friend and all friends roast each other all the time so I might as well do the same but worse and see how she feels.

Until one day she told me that she'd wanted to talk to me about my behavior. But get this. The three of us once had a fight and had an agreement that we'd change for the better and be more conscious of what we say and be more supportive. That did not last long. It did not.

I hadn't seen any change from A and N changed but only last for about either a month to a few weeks until she started treating me bad.

Frankly I just do not see the appeal. You go out of your way for your friend, take abuse, go out of your way again, take more abuse...

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N and A have been trying to make me turn against my family when I would vent about familial fights with them.

They've mocked me about not going to college. They've gotten envious about my current job.

They cant turn you against your family unless you let them. What does your family think of them?
This isnt about right or wrong. This is about you being taken advantage of.