Lately we've had encounters that went like this:
Me: I really felt close to you last night when ________________
My Wife: [long silence- changes the subject]

I guess eventually I'm going to have to ask her what's going on. For some reason I have a hard time engaging her in the moment.

What I should have said is something like - "What's going on with you right now? It appears you didn't have a good a time as I did. Should I be worried?"