Hi Bill,

Well it’s 50/50 for me. He makes me happy when we talk but sometimes he can’t resist being very flirty and for me if he doesn’t want to pursue anything romantic then it has to remain just friendly so that my feelings don’t become any more confused. (I don’t mind a little friendly flirting but he goes a bit beyond sometimes, although he has limited it more now since he’s finally started to get the message. He also said it’s not just about flirting too so hopefully he’s being honest but you can never know 100%).

I genuinely cared for him so wanted to provide him with some support if he was lonely (just not at my expense which is why I’ve had to draw the line at just friendship). But I don’t think I’ll ever loose that attraction for him completely. Although I can accept that I want him to be happy even if that isn’t with me.

From a male perspective, what are your “honest” thoughts on his reasons for contacting me, Bill?