I felt the same way until we saw a marriage counselor who told my husband that I came first. Once he started treating me like I was number 1, I was able to relax and put up with snubs from his parents.

If you see yourself as the victim, torn between choosing your parents or your wife, you won't be able to hear what's being said. Listen to your wife and really hear her. When she feels heard, things will change for you.