Im not trying to defend anyone but I ws an emotionally abusive partner. First I never realized it at the time. That is the hard part of changing is realizing u have the problem then finding help. I was trying to keep my partner safe and by doing that I turned into wht i ws trying to protect her from. I want and wanted my partner back. Being a male there is not many program known 2 th public that could help a man change. I found a really good support group in my area and at first i went so i could prove i was changing 2 my partner now i keep going for myself. I would recommend these types of programs to most men. thes programs only offer tools for change, its up to the person if they really want to change.