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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
I think you need to separate the drinking issues from the women issues. The route of the women issues is probably not drinking but drinking makes it rear its ugly head. A lot of people are afraid of AA and do not like its principles, think its a cult or too religious, so its not for everyone. I used AA to get sober 7 years ago and it worked on this skeptic. Are you driving to and from these bars? That part scares me and should scare you more than offending a woman. You could kill someone. People always want a bar to be set to tell if they are a real alcoholic. If you have a problem not drinking- its alcoholism. It doesnt matter what does or does not happen when drinking.
I think finding a good addictions specialist could help you through this. As far as the women thing goes its worth pursuing why you sexualize women then way you do. None of this means you are irredeemable though. None of this means your story deserves no sympathy. But truly until there are enough pain and consequences you will not stop drinking by not working some kind of program. They have outpatient alcohol programs that can help as well.
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Thank you, sarasweets. No, I would never drive after drinking. I live in a city and take public transportation or cabs or walk.
I understand what you mean about separating the drinking issues from the women issues. But I also agree with what you said about pain and consequences, so it just happens that both issues combined in this latest perfect storm - I really doubt I would have made such a horrendous set of actions while sober, including the way I finally drove her away. The remorse and sadness that I feel is so much worse because so far it seems unfixable with this woman - she has just stopped responding to my messages completely after being so into me that she said it was distracting her at work. All in the space of one week. It is just so awful and humiliating.
Thanks though for your helpful comments. I will try to get through this pain and so far am on day 3 of no drinking.