no kalamity jane that's good advice bacause i wonder if i'm in the safe about being in control or not adding too much on my plate. and that's exactly it i don't want to end up like that again, so if it means doing less and just focus on my family then i CAN take care of bussiness. i think that if i can handle staying home to take care of them then that's time well spent. espeicially when i have four children in school that also need counselling and therapy so a thank you for the advice always good to hear from you