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Im not trying to defend anyone but I ws an emotionally abusive partner. First I never realized it at the time. That is the hard part of changing is realizing u have the problem then finding help. I was trying to keep my partner safe and by doing that I turned into wht i ws trying to protect her from. I want and wanted my partner back. Being a male there is not many program known 2 th public that could help a man change. I found a really good support group in my area and at first i went so i could prove i was changing 2 my partner now i keep going for myself. I would recommend these types of programs to most men. thes programs only offer tools for change, its up to the person if they really want to change.

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,,,once,,,,, I hear Ya ........... The tool that has worked for me best over the last 20 + years has been . Turn away ,,, walk away ,, and take the time to sort it through to see the others mindset and then walk farther till you can find where the two mesh .
Then start a convo from there and be open to interpretations ,,,, PATIENCE ....... Is an easy word to pronounce ,,,, so often harder to find at the moment. But I learned long ago ,, bite my tongue or ooooopsssssss... Words can be painful too.