Can a person be borderline without extreme impulsivity (but retained internal) and without self harm - suicidal thoughts ?

But with - fear of abandonment (talking often about that, dreaming that we break up etc),
- splitting (strong idealization at first, then cycles between idealization and devaluation for no reason)
- bad self-image (thinking she's very ugly for no reason, not even want to look into mirror or take photos; sometimes feeling proud and more pretty; often not at all)
- chronic emptiness (not everyday, but at least weekly)
- big mood fluctuations

Impulsivity kept under control (gets angry but never really raged or trowed objects etc; gives silent treatment). No risk talking, driving safe, no binge eating, only sex with some persons just met/promiscuity.