Thank you.

I will convince her to see a psychiatrist for a diagnosis.

However, she does not admit to have bpd nor the majority of symthomps.

How can a psy diagnose her if she does not admit almost nothing of her behavior?

She says that she was very attached to me all the time (does not really see how dramatic her mood changes and her way of being towards me changed often), she says that she does not have a big fear of abandonment (even tho she asked me almost daily reassurances that I don't leave or trying to find any slight reason all the time), she says she's not her fault that she did not had any stable relation till now (she was "unlucky") etc etc

How she can be diagnost in just 1h from a person that does not know her at all, while she will deny all the strange behaviors of her ? Even more, she seems more like a "high functioning quiet borderline" to me, her symptoms are not that clear to the majority of people, me I clearly saw that after some months of living with her.

She will see a psy, will not admit anything, he will say she has nothing, and so she will think nothing is wrong with her, and she will put even more blame on me for telling her "she has problems", and that "she needs to see a psy becaose I think she has bpd". Already she was constantly angry when I tried to open the discussion that she might have bpd...



Thank you for the answers.

But if she does not admit almost none of her symptoms ?

She admits being mean sometimes to me and "destroyed" our relation because of that, but she thinks more that she did "an error", not that she has in general a problem.

She does not admit not at all that she could have bpd, she finds an explication for everything (that she was "unlucky" in her previous relationships, that she always was very attached of me, she does not see that she has big emotional swings etc)

I think she will just go see a psy if I insist alot, but there she will not admit almost nothing, so he will not be able to diagnose her with bpd.

And so she will think she is perfect normal, and will put even more blame on me for telling her often that she might have a problem (bpd)...