Yeah I already am. The trouble was that doesn’t mean feelings just disappear though when someone contacts you (the feelings aren’t as strong as they were, don’t get me wrong, but they don’t just disappear like nothing ever happened either). I’m happy to keep it friendly and since I posted this question he’s been more friendly than flirty so I presume it’s harmless now. I don’t mind my partner having friends so long as that’s all it is. If neither of us are acting on anything while someone else is involved and are both adult about it I see no harm. He does also seem to have culled the contact somewhat more now too. So I think that’s for the best.