Watching a programme last night about young volunteers in the NHS. An interesting question was raised, as one could not handle washing elderly patients. None objected to him; it was purely his personal feelings.

Should an elderly relative (mother or father) expect their children to take care of personal needs. I have a cousin who is wheelchair bound after two strokes. One of her grown-up sons is quite happy to take her to the toilet. The other admitted he cannot do it. Does she love him any less? Of course not.

There's no right or wrong answer to this. Would be interesting to hear other views on what can be a difficult subject.