I'm a dumb American!

I took care of every aged or disabled family member ,JMHO that's what family does for family .

That said I am the end of the line, the only child of only child , I have a rare and deadly disease ,so I know our family history going back to the 1600's ,I had a choice when I was younger play god with my penis and pray my children didn't hate me for passing this on ,or use protection have no children and when my progressive degenerative disease got bad as it is get an aide (I have had one for the last 11 years ,I am near the end of my road as a mortal being ,doctors gave me seven to 11 year survival ,11 years ago)

So again JMHO If you can stomach personal care or do a related field (Nurse/Paramedic in my ablebodied version) its not a finacially rewarding postion and yes can be brutal emotionaly , but for me, i learned so muxh first hand from people who lived it ,i feel blessed to have heard the stories and learned from them .but my care has to be trusted to a stranger,because I am fresh out of family .on the other side of the coin my G/F has her adult daughter help her when aides aren't available, her grown sons "want no part of seeing where they came from or cleaning it" direct qoute.

So it's a very personal decision on getting involved . As a side note we are not always the nicest people ,our battles are not always the prettiest things to be associated with ,as our bodies fail sometimes the worst part is mentally accepting your "New normal".

Alright that's both a caregivers perspective and a person in care (I mentor personal care attendants as a "hobby" towards fully preparing them for the physical and psychological stress,my tagline is "I am the same guy no matter which side of the bed rail you meet me on" . We don't change when our bodies do ,if your a nice person you don't become an ogre from getting sick .