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i do know she has an icy cold attitude to me right now, and try as i might, cant find any cause....

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Nowhere, you're such a great guy, it's not you.
Even though it won't make things any better and you are not going to heed my words......
don't take the actions and reactions of your mom personally. you are just a convenient target.

imo you are right about the role reversal. now try remembering what you felt and thought about yourself and other family members as say a 13-15 year old....
anger, disillusionment, "why me", etc.

((((( nowhere )))))