She snatched your wallet so that you couldn't pay for your own food? Well that's just weird. Why would she insist on paying for the whole meal? And then throw a fit about it? Honestly, I would've been pissed at her for taking my wallet, regardless of her intentions.


I decline a lot of offers because I don't like to be indebted to anyone, particularly not with anyone who's deceptive with their dealmaking. Some people offer their help supposedly out of sheer generosity and don't ask for anything in return, but they expect something in return nonetheless. They'll grow irritated if you don't play by these unspoken rules, and then they get all passive aggressive. Basically, you're entering into a verbal contract with someone without knowing the terms because they refuse to tell you, and you have to guess what it is they want in return for the help they offered.

A quid pro quo arrangement, on the other hand, I'm all for.

Disclaimer: I have several issues with trust and control which should be taken into account regarding the above statements.