Wow, Cyran0, I have never looked that deep into that kind of situation!! so in other words, even though you watch porn, it has nothing to do with the love of your wife, or your attraction to her? I mean, you still are 100% in love with her, and your instant gratifications off of porn does not change the love of your wife? I guess I see porn as a sin, I am in no means any way religious, but I am so afraid that he sees this porn, and wants that life style with me....I have never been a risk taker, and have always been called prude when it comes to sex, I never venture to the exciting world of difference. I have been told I need to lighten up a little and he will come around to being more adventurous with me, rather then with porn..you think that maybe I should not be such a missionary position in the sack? We have discussed sex therapy, because my doctors are blaming my not-so-sexual appetite on a chemical imbalance from having children....and I don't think that is what it is, I just think that I don't want sex, and i could really just live without it.......but on the other hand, I'm married, and that is not an option. I just feel that when he is watching porn he is doing exactly what you said, fantasying about other women. i want him to think about me...and just the thought of him thinking of other women is a complete TURN OFF to me, and thats not a good thing considering I am already in a turned off mood. Humm, I guess no that I read what I am writing, I sound so in the wrong..I think i might take up those therapy classes. I want to make him very happy, but I also need the same in return.