i've remained in contact with my ex-T since ending 2.5 years ago. this has included texts, emails, and meeting in person a handful of times for walks or at one of local cafes to catch up and talk in person. hubby sometimes encounters ex-T on the train to or from town and they will sit together and chit chat during the ride. when i was in therapy, T always said that we could remain in contact after it ended. when i ended therapy, i made it quite clear that i was never planning to return to therapy with him, and i am not sure how much of an influence that has had on him being willing to remain in contact. even though we have seen each other occasionally and have remained in touch, i definilty don't consider him a 'friend', but i continue to hold a special place for him in my heart.