Thanks so much everyone. I felt like it was a pointless post. I'm glad you folks didn't laugh at me or anything.

Lyn, I think that is a good idea, and I have said I won't answer any questions that are not ok with me, but when he's drunk I'm pretty powerless against him. It's kind of hard to do when you have just now realised that you can and it is recommended that you think for yourself. But I'm gonna have to keep trying nevertheless.

Rhapsody, take your time

Pachyderm, yeah, I guess I'm gonna have to do that eventually. My T and I, in my opinion, are reaching a sort of a milestone, as in, we are finally getting to the root of the problem.

Kiya, I'm not sure if it's right or not either, considering both of my parents are in their 60s/nearing their 60s, I understand they are kind of old-fashioned. However, it was okay when he was sober, (or at least he pretended that he was), but when he got drunk it became an issue. Argh, very confusing.