I’m sorry you’ve been dealing with a child who has always been difficult.
TunedOut gives good advice. Your daughter can be shown the door with her disrespectful attitude.
My niece sounds like your daughter. She is 31 and still lives with my sister. She is finally holding down a job at the smoke shop across from their house.
I thought I had an ideal relationship with my sons, also aged 17 - 24. They were great kids. We never had a single argument until recently. My oldest is getting married and had become a different person. Our heads are spinning in shock. We are not going to his wedding! The whole house of cards tumbled down with the whole family that we thought was so amazing!
It’s not your fault and this wasn’t our fault. Make choices that are healthy for you. I know how had that can be to do.