So,I got in touch with the friend I've posted about-little bit of telephone/text contact(nothing deep).The outcome of it is that she texted me to say she's sorry but she's "not ready yet".Originally she blamed her hurtful behaviour and withdrawal on depression/mood related problems.As far as I know she's still receiving treatment.

She's not staying in alone ,she's obsessed with a sexual relationship and is able to go out and about,make efforts for that.(although she knows it's not long term).It seems however that she's not making efforts to be friends-what is she "not ready" for?-we used to be so close,speak daily,I gave her lots of help and support when she asked me to.Is she telling me lies now? Is this her way of saying she doesn't want to be friends? If so,why not straight out and say that,(she's not hesitated to say hurtful things before)-better that than pretending that by "not ready yet" she might be in the future.Or,could she be telling the truth? Or is she just keeping me hanging on? If she's "sorry" then why not do something about it?

I don't think she's even pick the phone up to me if I were to ring her,yet in some ways I feel that if we could only talk..........