Dear Barbie1985........you ask , “ what should I do “ . Well I will just say what I do , ( after much bitter experience ) . Don’t look at his phone ! Does he leave his phone unlocked ? If he has something to hide I would think he would lock his phone so that you or anyone else can’t look at it. I found out that most people consider their phone a very private part of themselves. Whether shes really “ just a friend “ is another post altogether. I would judge your marriage by his actions ! Are there outward signs in your daily life that make you think he could be cheating. I think we all need to get real about how life really works. Chances are a man will wind up cheating on his wife eventually. And vice versa ! I found out that as human beings we are fallible and weak. Now don’t get me wrong , there are no excuses for violating your marriage vows. But there are many reasons why it happens over the course of a marriage. Short or longterm.
We do not OWN another person just because at some point we loved them ( and each other ) so much that we married that person in the hopes that we can keep that person to ourselves forever ! I don’t mean to sound harsh , just realistic.
My best advice is for you to always just be ready for the possibility that your husband ( or wife ) can mess up and have plan B ready to go if that happens.
Knowing this ahead of time will take a lot of the shock and hurt away. And maybe help ease some of the almost unbearable pain your loved one can inflict on you. I pray that it works out for you no matter what happens.