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Iīve met with a new T two times now and there were several things I wanted to bring up so I asked her if I could give her a text I had written. She accepted that, I had written about what I need in a therapist and some things that upset me during our last meeting.
She read it, she more or less choose some of it and read it out loud but she barely commented on anything. She told me she doesnīt do chit-chat in connection to my opinion about how she ended our last session. But she didnīt tell me how she thought we could work on this, she didnīt validate any of my feelings and she didnīt seem to think of this as therapeutical material.
We then continued with her questions as we do evaluation sessions. She asked me several questions and when I talked she just said "mm" to almost everything. When I paused, she asked another question. She didnīt comment on anything I said, she hasnīt presented herself, I donīt see anything that could be relationally oriented.
At the end she wanted to give the document back to me and I was both surprised and a bit offended that she didnīt want to keep it and read it again and use it for our therapy. She did read it but such a document should be interesting to her, to look at some more and perhaps reflect upon. I had put energy into that text and showed I wanted to try to get her to understand.
I canīt understand how she sees herself as a relational T, she though have the proper education. I see her more like a psychoanalytical T (she isnīt a psychoanalyst) as she barely interacts with me.
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