I'm not sure I understand what a relational T is. I've been seeing current T for maybe 13 months and I would say I am just now getting to the point where I am considering the therapeutic relationship with her. It probably took a little less time with that with former T but still it took a while. I think it is good that you gave her the text to read but I'm sorry you didn't get more of the response that you are looking for. I am wondering if you are still in the orientation phase with this T. You mentioned evaluation sessions. I think the first couple of sessions are usually sort of orientation like where the T is trying to get a sense of you and what difficulties have you had up until this point and how to develop a treatment plan that would help you. I'm not sure that the relationship has come into play yet. But relationship between T and client is one of the important aspects in the outcome of therapy. She might not be a good fit for you. I don't remember. Were you assigned this T or are you able to choose another T? If you are able to choose, you might want to interview a few more T's to see if you find one that you think is a better fit. If you were assigned this T and can't change at the moment, it might be worthwhile to see if it gets better after the evaluation sessions and continue to bring up what it is you want to work on. But also listen to your gut. If this isn't a good fit for you, you probably know it deep down. It might be worth looking to see if there are other T's out there who can help you better, or relate to you in a way that works better for you. HUGS if you want them, Kit