rhap - the way you talk about it makes it sound like a husband is a posession. i dont want my boyfriend looking at porn but if he does that's his choice and i need to either get over it or leave. what he does in his spare time has nothing to do with you. once again, instead of trying to form someone into who you want them to be, either get over it, or leave. people will not change for you unless they want to change themselves. and if they do change for you it will eventually go back to the way it was and they will resent you. if you dont like the porn, then get out of the relatinship