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Oct 01, 2019, 02:18 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 6,008
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Welcome @lillib
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Originally Posted by lillib
Furthermore, what is also less discussed in the therapy room, apart from moral injuries, are the traumatic losses that resulted from traumatic experiences, including moral injury trauma. For example, I've suffered from career losses, social capital losses, financial losses, physical health losses, reputation losses, etc. When we think about feeling stuck or wondering why PTSD-based and other symptom-based treatments aren't hitting every aspect of our lives, perhaps it's the moral injuries and trauma-related losses that need attending to.
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Can you share more on trauma-related losses and moral injuries without using your own specifics(in order for me to be sensitive to you I didnt want you to have to share personal stuff that could trigger).
My alcoholism which was one of many things that grew out of trauma caused me to do and say and act immorally and do unethical things. I have made amends for those things and try and live an honest life now. I too have suffered all sorts of losses similar to the ones you mentioned and I am sure others as well and I am trying to see how they relate specifically to the trauma as you mentioned. Without getting into my own garbage I am trying to see how certain traumas would have then affected my years later with jobs or other losses. Can you share so I understand better?
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I've tried to do a lot of self-healing since many therapists aren't trained in those modalities, or consider "unconventional" grief and loss issues to be more "trivial," thereby stigmatizing and undermining our pain.
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I cant stand this. Pain is pain. Nothing is trivial they can go F themselves.
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Beyond the underlying theories such as "learned helplessness" and "complex grief" and "conditioning" and "loci of control and responsibility,"
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I am unfamiliar with these theories. If you have an easy read link and dont mind sharing I'll read up on it.
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These are not necessarily complex grief issues insofar that holding onto grief for longer than necessary is unhealthy, but rather losses that are tantamount to continuous traumatic stress (as opposed to "post" traumatic stress). These losses are ongoing in a society that is replete with microaggression trauma, stigmas that traumatized, and discrimination.
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Can you expound on this as well?
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Despite my positive take on these things, I still want to cry, be believed, feel supported, and be encouraged as I move forward. I'm hoping that I'm not alone in the moral injuries and traumatic losses I had mentioned above. I'm hoping that there's answers that I perhaps didn't find in the literature or in treatment.
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You are not alone and I feel like I am on the brink of understanding what you mean and maybe also in the same boat as you.
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