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salukigirl said:
rhap - the way you talk about it makes it sound like a husband is a posession.
what he does in his spare time has nothing to do with you.

people will not change for you unless they want to change themselves. and if they do change for you it will eventually go back to the way it was and they will resent you.

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Not at all... a husband nor a wife is a possession of any one - but when you choose to stop being bf & gf and commit your life & body to each then get married you are now sharing your life with another and with that you do promise to leave certain "single people activity" behind....... forshaking all others for one and another.

And with out sounding mean or harsh (for that is not my intention) - You evidently really do not know much about the deep rooted problems involved in getting help and recovering from a sexual addiction (any addiction) - as one usually will need the help of another if not many others to get over their addiction.... and they will usually fight all help in the beginning (even when they desire to stop) - that is why the demand must come into play when one partner in the relationship fails to meet the promises they made to each other - to give that little extra push to get them started.

.... my husband fought at first - but now after a ten year struggle (six years free) he thanks me for demanding he stop - this thanks did not (probably could not) take place until after the addiction was gone.