Or, maybe, ask the therapist when you don't understand. If she has said that she is a relationally-oriented therapist, what does she mean by that? What does it mean to her? How does that affect what she tries to do to help her clients? It may not seem like what you thought you were going to get from therapy but maybe there is something useful there anyway. Or not. But what are your options if you don't give this a try?

It may be that there are some meanings and some possibilities that the two of you can come to understand together.