Think about it from a different perspective. If you enjoy making them happy and feel good drive on that feeling rather than lust. You can be just as creative in a different way and I bet they would absolutely love the new zest in the bedroom. Perhaps being more active would help as well. I know after working out I can get pretty zesty. Or a long walk and fresh air. Or something to get my adrenaline going. Turn it into a game rather than anxiety creator.