I too would find a blank slate frustrating. I mean, I don't want my T to go on and on and on about herself and her life, but I do want to know a few things to make her human. Like with my T I know when she was young she worked at Disneyland. (We bond over Disneyland.) And I know she is divorced. I know she has two kids. Grown up kids. I know she had trouble conceiving. So I know quite a lot but it's not like she spends tons of time in session talking about herself. Just here and there she will say something about her life and it makes her more real. I've never had any T that is a blank slate. They have all disclosed some things about themselves. I would think that asking how long she had been a therapist would be an easy answer. It's not intrusive in my opinion. It's just a basic fact about your T. I'm sorry she isn't a little more forthcoming. I know you gotta work with what you can afford, but it's too bad she is being such a stick in the mud. HUGS Kit