I'm sorry you're feeling this way. That does seem like a harsh message to accept. I don't feel like your therapist would have said something this strong though if he or she wasn't concerned you're losing your identity a bit. I think we sometimes have a tendency to view everything through a bipolar lens, but there are so many other parts of ourselves to explore. We need to be vigilant and realize when we are not in control, but we don't need to watch ourselves so closely that we forget to live and experience joy. It is a balancing act.

My advice would be to brainstorm a list of the things you are or enjoy that have nothing to do with bipolar disorder. Maybe you're an artist or a writer or maybe you enjoy the outdoors. Maybe you're a good friend or great at your job. Whatever. Then spend time immersing yourself in those things. Even if they feel a bit less enjoyable now, push yourself to do them. Reconnect with what makes you you. That way maybe you will have some material to discuss with your therapist that isn't about bipolar and is more about you as a person. If none of those options sound good, make an effort to try something new. Redefine yourself instead of reconnecting. Sometimes the old parts of us need to fall away, but you need to replace it with something better and not just the ups and downs of bipolar disorder.

You are definitely not your disease. You are what you choose to be in the moment. Choose well.