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Do you feel you have done everything possible to save the marriage?

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I'm working hard, but no I don't think I've done everything possible. Then again, I don't know if I will ever get myself to reach that conclusion in my own mind.

As I've gotten my act together, regained my sense of self, and challenged his behavior our family situation has slowly improved. This provides me with some hope for a future. He is not VBing us anymore and the overall anger level in the house has decreased. He still gets a bit carried away with our youngest's athletic participation and I have to keep a close tabs on this situation. He continues to live vicariously through him and forgets that the boy is only 9. The good news is my son does not endure his father's "feedback" anymore. Unfortunately I still have to hear the lectures on how awful he catches, how poor his coach is, how much of a baby he was when he got hit in the face with a fly ball, how he doesn't pay attention, needs to do this or that....
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I'm glad you have a therapist who is helping you.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> My T has been very kind, patient, and has helped me create a better home environment for my children and for this I am very grateful. Unfortunately I'm not sure if things are better for me. Maybe this is how it is supposed to be.

Therapy has just dug up a lot of stuff that was buried and forgotten for a long time. I've gotten the nightmares to stop, but the emptiness remains. I've changed and I am not sure if I can be true to myself and remain in this relationship. I'm feeling more unhappy and unfulfilled with my marriage. I don't think I love him. I want things that he is not able to provide and he wants things from me which are becoming more and more difficult for me to provide. I guess I am at a point where I need to decide is an empty marriage tolerable.