I’m a 21 year old girl, and so far I’ve been in a few relationships in the past couple of years, many of which I wasn’t very emotionally attached to. I’ve found that creating and emotional/romantic attachment to a person is really difficult for me, and that even over a long period of time, the other person in the relationship is still way more “into it” than I seem to be. When it has come to relationships where I HAVE managed to get attached to the person and fully invest my time and energy into the relationship, there seems to come a point a few months into the relationship where I just shut off, it’s hard to explain but it’s almost as though I get nervous because it’s getting deeper, and I’m losing control so then I start to make excuses until I find one good enough to end the relationship. This all sounds as horrible as it is, because in having done that before, it has hurt people and to be quite honest it has hurt my own feelings. I’m not quite sure how to move forward. I do want to meet someone and be serious and happy but each time I hit a certain point, it’s like my emotions go into shutdown. I have done quite a bit of research on commitment issues and I recognise that my parents divorce in my early childhood and the abandonment of my father could be a possible factor to how I find it hard to stay committed. But I’m just not sure how to move forward anymore.